The Messenger of Allaah (may Allaah raise his rank and grant him peace) guided us to this balance and moderation in our emotions when he said:
إِنَّ أَوْثَقَ عُرَى الإِيْمَانِ أَنْ تُحِبَّ فِي اللهِ وَتُبْغِضَ فِي اللهِ
“Verily the strongest handhold of faith is that you love for the sake of Allah and that you hate for the sake of Allah.”
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا مَن يَرْتَدَّ مِنكُمْ عَن دِينِهِ فَسَوْفَ يَأْتِي اللَّهُ بِقَوْمٍ يُحِبُّهُمْ وَيُحِبُّونَهُ أَذِلَّةٍ عَلَى الْمُؤْمِنِينَ أَعِزَّةٍ عَلَى الْكَافِرِينَ يُجَاهِدُونَ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ وَلَا يَخَافُونَ لَوْمَةَ لَائِمٍ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ فَضْلُ اللَّهِ يُؤْتِيهِ مَن يَشَاءُ ۚ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ - 5:54
O you who have believed, whoever of you should revert from his religion - Allah will bring forth [in place of them] a people He will love and who will love Him [who are] humble toward the believers, powerful against the disbelievers; they strive in the cause of Allah and do not fear the blame of a critic. That is the favor of Allah ; He bestows it upon whom He wills. And Allah is all-Encompassing and Knowing.
وَالَّذِينَ آمَنُواْ أَشَدُّ حُبًّا للهِ
"While the people of eemaan are stronger in their love for Allaah [than anyone else]" [Soorah al-Baqarah: 165]
The hadith of Abu Hurayrah which states that the Prophet (saw) said:
“Seven types of people Allah will shade them by His Shade on the Day of Resurrection when there will be no shade except His Shade. They will be, a just ruler, a young man who has been brought up in the worship of Allah, a man whose heart is attached to mosques, two people who love each other for only Allah's Sake, where they associated together because of Him and dissociated from each other because of Him, a man who is called by a charming lady of noble birth to commit illegal sexual intercourse with her, and he said, 'I am afraid of Allah, a man who gives in charity secretly such that his left hand does not know what his right hand has given and a man who remembers Allah in seclusion and his eyes are then flooded with tears.”
"The declaration of faith, there is no god but Allah, requires you to love only for the sake of Allah, to hate only for the sake of Allah, to ally yourself only for the sake of Allah, to declare enmity only for the sake of Allah; it requires you to love what Allah loves and to hate what Allah hates Ibn Taimiya, al-Ihtijaj bil-Qadar, p.62
"Whoever loves for the sake of Allah, and hates for the sake of Allah, and whoever seals a friendship for His sake, or declares an enmity for His sake, will receive, because of this, the protection of Allah. No one may taste true faith except by this, even if his prayers and fasts are many. People have come to build their relationships around the concerns of the world, but it will not benefit them in any way.
Ibn Rajab al-Hanbali, Jami' al-Ulum wal Hikam, p.30
One of the practices that seems to be missing in our community is "loving each other for the sake of Allah" which means loving Allah's servant for his faith and obedience. Even though it is an important matter which should belong to the muslim "nafsiyah", today, many of us don't show this behaviour towards our sisters and brothers. If we take a look at our oummah, we will see that this love is absent between us. First, between people inside the same family, then, between neighbour’s, friends and Muslim’s in the world. The human is a social creature who has many relationships with other people. However, these relationships are often based on profit instead of Allah's satisfaction. We should not forget that "the love for Allah" is a recommendation of Allah (swt) as the other orders.
Why is this behaviour so important? There are many reasons and I will quote only some of them. First, the people who love each other for Allah (swt) will belong to the seven categories of people who will be protected by Allah's shadow on the Judgment Day. Then, in a hadith of Rasul (sws), it is mentioned that if we don't love each other for God, we have not believed in Allah. Third, we should think about the reward that Allah will offer to us in paradise. Allah (swt) promise for these people minberes of light envied by prophets and martyrs. Then, if we love each other for Allah, Allah will love us.
After understanding the importance of this love, we should think about how we can implement this command so it changes our behaviour.
First, by helping our sister/brother when she/he is in need. In this way, The Merciful will take off one of our difficulties. Secondly, by coming to others with a smiling face. Allah consider it like a "sadaqa" (charity) and will reward us. Then, by giving gifts, this will increase the love that we have for each other. Then, by thanking people. The person who make the act will be happy for it and by the way, we also thank The Generous, Ar Rahman. Next, by accepting people's forgiveness, by hiding others' secrets, by giving advices and so on.
I would conclude with the following Muttafaqun Alayhi hadith. An-Nu’man ibn Basheer reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said," “The parable of the believers in their affection, mercy, and compassion for each other is that of a body. When any limb aches, the whole body reacts with sleeplessness and fever.”
From UQAB Magazine Issue 7